I'm not sure there are any shy sluts lol. I mean either you are a slut and you enjoy lots of sexual encounters or you aren't a slut now are you. If you are looking for lots of sexual encounters than it would be the slut herself that would to some extent be the aggressor and on the hunt so to speak.
So I guess once you meet a slut in person or on line it is a matter of how far you want to go. Most sluts are open to much more activities than the more normal sexual partner. Good luck first in finding the right slutty partner than take your time to learn both your limits. Hell contact me directly by email at email@example.com and maybe we can hook up for whatever level of play you desire.