Hello Terry, my wife has troubles taking my cock anally. She is hurting and we always have to stop before even getting close to the target. How can we take this further? Is there any gel that is truly effective to hamper the pain? I think she is having problems to relax her rectum in the right way.
Thank you for trusting me with such a delicate problem. As you know I love being airtight with cocks filling all my opennings thus anal is usually a huge part of any group sex I'm involved in. Like your wife it wasn't always that way.
It started slowly with hubby using his finger in my ass as he was fucking my pussy, followed by a very small finger size vibe that felt good vibrating inside my ass. We actually started with Vaseline years ago as the lube of choice for my ass. There are numbing lotions you can get as well but you high on part of the problem when you wrote of her not being able to relax.
Start small with a well lubed finger moving to larger sized well lubed toys (including a small vibe to vibrate inside her ass). You can add a second and third well lubed finger. As you naturally stretch her asshole over time, she will relax more and finally like me truly enjoy a nice cock up her ass balls deep banging away.